Do you feel stuck in a rut, even when things look okay on the surface?
Is there some goal you’ve given up on because you think it’s out of reach?
Does it feel like you’re not making the most out of life?
Over the years, both personal and professional experiences have taught me four essential building blocks that are necessary for getting more out of life.
These are all quite simple concepts that lots of people talk about, but too few take the all-important step of acting on them.
Wondering how to have a good life? Starting today, prioritize these four building blocks and reap the rewards — regardless of what you do, where you live, or how much money you make.
You’ve probably heard the familiar real estate mantra: Location! Location! Location!
Well, if you want to make the most of your life, here’s your new mantra: Relationships! Relationships! Relationships!
Great relationships promote good health, career success, and a fulfilling personal life. Looking for some hard evidence?
Look no further than the long-running Study of Adult Development at Harvard. For more than 75 years, two separate cohorts of men have been studied as they finished school, launched their careers, got married, had children, and went through other life experiences.
And what do the results tell us about what makes a good life?
Good relationships keep us healthier and happier.
Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, the study’s director, shared three key lessons in a TED Talk in 2015:
Quality (not quantity) of relationships. Individuals in so-called “high-conflict” relationships — meaning they argued a lot — were actually less happy than those who were single.
You don’t need me to tell you that being nice to people makes for better relationships.
It might be taking food to a neighbor who’s under the weather, offering moral support to a friend, or mentoring a young person at work. Or it could simply be treating others the way you want to be treated.
Well, researchers have also discovered that kindness is right up there with eating your veggies when it comes to personal well-being:
So follow the Golden Rule if you want to know how to get the most out of life!
Jimmy Fallon is well-known for writing his weekly “Thank You Notes” on the Tonight Show. Turns out, Jimmy is on to something!
Make the most of every day and reflect on the good things in your life. And whenever somebody does something nice for you at work, at home, or anywhere else, don’t let it slide. Make a deliberate effort to show your appreciation and pay it forward!
Most people think they have to wait for their “ship to come in” and then they’ll start getting the most out of life. Once they land that dream job, or find that perfect relationship, boy, things will really take off!
Until then, they must slave away at their meaningless job, sleep in a boring house, and trudge through life, day after endless day.
But life coach Valorie Burton, who wrote the bestselling book Successful Women Think Differently, has a very different message. According to the evidence she’s looked at, happiness is a choice that makes you successful, not the other way around:
That last point is so important. No, happiness is not the absence of problems. It isn’t blissful ignorance in the face of problems. Instead, happiness is an asset that can help you overcome problems, achieve your goals, and make the most of life.
Valorie offers two keys for making happiness a habit:
So, if you want to change your life for the better, make happiness a habit, cultivate relationships, practice kindness, and show gratitude.
The four building blocks in this article will help you Thrive and not Just Survive by discovering how to get more out of life. Why wait for your ship to come in — when you’ve already got the tools for building it yourself?
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